Have you ever asked yourself, what lessons have I learned from life so far? I know I have. And for the most part after looking at the big picture, I know I have learned many things from life. For everything and anything I ever did, there was some sort of learning experience, whether big or small, bad or horrible, I learned something.
I think back to when I was a child and I asked my dad to buy me the Grease record from the movie Grease with John Travolta. Like the good dad he always did his best to give his daughter everything he could, so he bought it for me.
But, like the pesky little brat that I was, I broke the 45 inch record in half because I was unhappy that dad did not buy me the Grease album, that I was not specific about, upon making my request. As you can imagine my dad was not happy and did not hesitate to let me know.
Okay, so what did that teach me? Number one, it taught me to be specific when I say or ask for something, Number two, ungratefulness gets me no where and three, don’t mess with dad.
Life is so amazing this way, you can look back and be thankful for something that at point seemed useless or even humiliating. Among many of the lessons I've learned in life, one in particular has been humility.
There was a time when I could not imagine myself cleaning toilets and scrubbing floors for a living. Not because I frowned upon it but, because I thought with my education I should be working in an office with sparkling glass desks and shiny door knobs. Well, needless to say, I could not find the shiny door knob job and things were getting pretty hard financially.
While discussing my hardship with a few friends, one of them made a mention of a person who was looking for a cleaning lady. My friend asked me if I would be interested, and I said yes, but only because I did not want to seem like a Pri Madonna, which would have been ridiculous given the circumstances.
That job was one of the best things I ever did in my life. I worked cleaning houses for about one year and besides earning a few bucks to pull me through while I got back on my feet, I gained so many other things from it like strength, good honest work ethics and gratitude for being given the opportunity to actually see that where there is a will, there is always a way.
Of course part of life lessons can sometimes involve people you don’t care to socialize with. In this lesson I learn not to be so quick to judge. Let me tell you about this woman, I use to call her my ‘Arch-nemesis.” Oh my goodness, I could not stomach her presence and I knew darn well she felt the same about me. Why? Well as me and her know today, we were jealous of one another, plain and simple. She thought I was prettier than her which contributed to her low self esteem at the time and I did not like that she had more money than me which fueled my financial insecurities. When ever she had a boyfriend, she made it a point to inform him or rather demand not to look at me and well frankly, I did the same. As you are probably saying to yourself right now “that is ridiculous and self absorbed.” Yes it was. Ah….the perils of being a girl and becoming a woman.
Anyhow, I was experiencing yet another one of my challenging life experiences, emotionally and spiritually, and it could have easily been my worst if; my arch nemesis had not extended her hand out to help me. Yes, my dear readers the woman that I did not like, turned out to be my angel during my time of great difficulty and I have been hers during her tough times. Today we are good friends.
Lesson learned here….. Do not be so quick to judge others, look beyond the exterior and into the interior, those you criticize may very well be the ones you help and help you when in need.
Presently, I am experiencing another lesson in my life; I think it’s the king of all. And undoubtedly I can say that I am learning lot’s from it. I guess that’s what life is all about; you live it, learn from it, utilize it in a positive way and pass it on.
How do you feel about the lessons in your life? Have they guided you to make better decisions in your future?